Spread the Love: Getting Over Anxiety Around Gift-Giving

Spread the Love

Melissa Gosselin

Happy Wednesday, everyone! I hope you’re all doing well. With Mother’s Day coming up, I thought I’d reflect a little on gift-giving. For those of you who’ve been reading this blog for a while, you know I’ve explored this topic before. Here’s the thing with me — I don’t really like shopping. *Gasp* It’s shocking, I know. I’m easily overwhelmed by choices or by the number of people packed in one place. If I already know what I want to get, shopping online is great! But if I’m just browsing, I just end up clicking around forever. So when birthdays and holidays come up, I get a little stressed out. I’ve been trying to find a system that will help me show people I care — without overspending on a gift they never use. 

Here’s what I’ve realized: The bulk of the gift-giving work is done throughout the year, not a couple of days before the birthday or holiday. And it just really comes down to listening. Last year on my birthday, my dad got me a 1000-piece puzzle. It was of a bonfire next to a cabin on the lake. What was so amazing about that gift is that I wouldn’t even have thought to ask for it! My dad had been listening, so he knew how much I was starting to enjoy puzzles. He also knew that a bonfire by the lake was one of the most soothing images ever for me. 

Since my Christmas gift post, I’ve been using a little trick: I started using my journal. When someone I care about mentions something they like (a favorite ice cream, chocolate bar, candy, etc.) I write it down. I personally use the bullet journal method. I like it because you can create your own index. So whenever I add a note, it’s easy to find — all I have to do is go to “Gift Ideas: page 37”. 

I’m looking to improve on this strategy a little. It’s not just about writing down favorite candy bars and ice cream. I’m looking to add more reflection questions. To create spaces during the month to think about all the things I appreciate about my friends and family. Spaces to think about who they are, how I can bring value to their lives and all the ways they bring value to mine. The idea is that when it comes time to write a card or find a gift, I can refer back to those reflections. 

What are your tips and tricks for shopping for gifts? Let me know in the comments below!

Also, if you’re looking to get Mom a sentimental gift for Mother’s Day, check out our Mom Blanket! Its ultra-soft fabric and beautiful words are bound to make Mom feel extra special. 


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